Effective Couples Therapy
Learn Proven Skills To Repair Or Enhance Your Marriage
Marriage is hard work, and unfortunately most people are never taught how to be happy with their life-partner. Negative interactions lead to harmful behaviors, and this cycle can go on for years. Let me teach you both how to have the relationship that you promised to co-create with each other when you first said “I do.”
Learn How To Create A Happy Marriage
Committed relationships are hard work and many couples live in constant or intense suffering. After years of pain, it’s natural to feel hopeless. Let me help you. I can teach you how to prioritize, validate, and reconnect with each other so that together you can finally live a happy and peaceful life.
It's Time To Heal
When working with a couple, I always start with the same hypothesis: Your marriage can be happy and successful, and the issue is that no one has every taught you the skills to make that possible.
Let me teach you how to communicate with you partner to build a closer connection, repair from past hurts, improve a sexless marriage, or figure out once and for all if you are truly compatible with each other.
Considering Divorce
An unhappy marriage can be one of life's most painful experiences. Unfortunately, 40% of couples who divorce regret it, so be sure you are making the right choice.
Couples Communication
Break the negative cycles of communication and interaction by learning the skills to reconnect and find peace in your house.
Sexless Marriage
Couples of all ages can lose their spark or desire. Sexual satisfaction is extremely important for marital success and affair prevention.
Affair Recovery
Affairs can feel like the end of the marriage and leave someone questioning what they did wrong or blaming their partner. There are ways to survive and prevent affairs by working on your relationship.
Couples Therapy Retreat
Imagine Fixing Your Marriage In 3 Days
There are many benefits to an Intensive Couples Therapy Retreat including:
- Significant results in 3 days versus 6 months of therapy
- Create momentum each hour for deeper healing
- Retreats are easier to schedule than weekly sessions
- The condensed format is easier if you are commuting from another state
- There is often higher motivation and engagement on a retreat due to the intensive format
Dr. David Helfand, PsyD
Couples Therapy Expert
Dr H has dedicated over 10 years to studying couples therapy, neuroscience, and clinical psychology. He has helped hundreds of couples learn how to finally heal from their past experiences and move on to have a happy and peaceful relationship.
The Neuroscience of Marriage
You will become better at whatever you practice. If you speak with kindness, your relationship will feel kind. Most couples contact me because they have become masters at arguing. Therefore, part of my job is to help every couple consciously put their marriage in a positive state as much as possible so that those experiences will replicate themselves…
Researchers have repeatedly found that happy relationships require a ratio of 5:1 positive to negative interactions. This means for every negative experience together, you need 5 positive ones to then feel good about your partner. My goal is to help you surpass this ratio so that you thrive as a couple.
Additionally, I want to teach you how to turn negative emotions into a positive connection. Brain scans of couples in love and disagreement shows us that these states are very similar neurologically. Therefore, discord in a relationship is actually an opportunity to connect if you know how to appropriately redirect that energy and emotion.
Marriage Requires Skills
I’m often asked why the divorce rate is so high. My answer is that people are rarely taught relationship skills. Imagine if construction workers were not taught how to properly build houses. How many homes would fall or collapse? I educate every couple on the three pillars of relationship success: connect, reflect, and redirect.
Connect: Increase your love, like, and lust for each other while considering how your daily interactions can help create a deeper sense of connection and validation.
Reflect: Consider how your own emotional intelligence and overall health impact your marriage. Taking responsibility for your actions and making positive contributions to your relationship has profound results.
Redirect: Learning how to co-regulate with each other creates a deeper sense of connection even during difficult times. This connection also helps guide you both towards a shared vision of your life together.
